Did you know that there is one major thing that stands in the way of your success? It doesn’t matter what you want to be successful in, relationships, career, business, or parenting you must have this major thing. What is it? It is your ability to believe in yourself.  Some say having a positive attitude will help you reach success but there’s more to it than just having a positive attitude.  You must believe in yourself.

I’ve been in business coaching women for seven years now. I started part-time and thanks to God now I have been operating my business full-time for three years. When I first started I knew that God had gifted me with the ability to encourage and uplift women to find their true identity and walk in their authority but I did not fully believe I could. In fact, there are still times today when I question if I am the woman for the job.

The one thing I’ve learn over the years while operating my business is without belief in yourself you cannot reach your goals and serve those that God intended for you to serve. So, you might be asking, “How do I do THAT?” You might also be saying, “I’m really not good at very much….So-and-so at my office doesn’t struggle with anything.  That’s why s/he succeeds!”  I’m sorry—did we begin a whine-fest here?  Who’s bringing the cheese to go with the whine?

Everyone struggles with *something*, whether or not you know what that something is.  If you struggle with your self-esteem, then you’re probably comparing yourself to other people and using a measuring stick that’s not even remotely accurate as you bash yourself and your own abilities.

The first thing you need to do is sit down with a piece of paper and start to write down the things at which you are genuinely good.  I mean things like “I brush my teeth twice a day,” and “I’m organized.”  For every skill or task that you OWN (and it doesn’t matter what it is), there is a way to put those abilities to good use and a way to make it your own personal success story.

Now that you’ve done that, think about things you *love* to do.  Make another column on your paper and begin to list things you really enjoy and could do every day for the rest of your life—and not dread going to work.  Draw lines between things in your two columns that might go together.

On my paper, I’d write “I’m good at organizing things” in one column and “I like to write.”  They don’t seem to go together, but what if I began writing about getting organized?  What if I started an email list with tips on how to get organized and wrote notes to encourage my subscribers?  And then what if I started to talk to companies who would custom-make things for my subscribers to help keep them organized and began seeing profit from all of this?

Would you call that “success”?  I would—and there’s a lady in North Carolina who’s done just that.  Just ask any of the 250,000 “Flybabies” if the FLYlady is good for them!  This woman has created a niche for herself and is success personified.

So are you beginning to see how some creative thinking and listing your skills and passions can come together for success?  I hope you’re learning to think outside the box in this exercise, because that’s what it takes.

So the moral of this story is that you CAN do this.  You CAN succeed at this and you DO have what it takes to be successful.  Go work on your lists and remember to think outside the box! Leave me a comment on what you discovered while doing this exercise.

Shift Your Mindset Change Your Life!